Long ago, before baby arrived it was a no brainer that I was going to breastfeed. I was not squeamish about my breast or the fact that they would suddenly not be a sexual entity but a nutritional one. I knew it was best for baby and best for our wallet if I wanted to stay home.
Day one of breastfeeding in the hospital was frustrating! Even with the help of the wonderful lactation consultants, I had problems. This was mainly due to the fact that my milk did not come in until the morning we were being discharged. Well that and the fact that watching videos of others doing it makes it seem like a walk in the park. It's all good until you are holding a tiny person in your arms and suddenly your boob is bigger than their head and all the advice from the consultant and videos are out the window as you try and let your motherly instincts take over.
Nursing isn't for everyone. But I knew I would give it at least 6 months. This is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics. You can see more of what they have to say here. It's funny cause when it comes to your child, you shouldn't need to read or hear it from anyone else to continue to do what is good for them.
I started out knowing I would give breastfeeding at least 6 months. When 6 months came and went and I was still comfortable and he hadn't been sick, I knew another 3 months to make it 9 would be no problem. People would often ask how long I planned to keep at it and I would tell them at least a year. But factors like teeth, solids foods and growth spurts all came into play and could change the dynamics. They didn't. So here I am with a 14 month old and we still nurse. I've taught him how to sign that he wants to nurse and most days he can come up to me and give the the sign.
Did I think I would still be nursing at 14 months? No. Do I mind? No. Should others mind? No. People are funny once you have children, everyone has advice to give. But when it comes to breastfeeding, everyone has advice AND an opinion. There are those that won't even attempt it cause they deem it gross. There are others who just can't ever get comfortable with it after attempting. And still others who would gladly nurse as long as possible.
Where am I? Somewhere in the middle. I know Spencer has not been sick or had problems flying and I attribute that to breastfeeding. It makes him happy and for me is a workout. I know it is the reason I weigh less than I did before getting pregnant! Hello, buying jeans in a size I haven't seen in quite a while is a very good thing. Could breastfeeding be the reason? Sure, so why would I stop? Ok, I kid...maybe.
Is there the possibility that he will be 24 months and still nursing? Maybe. But in the end that is my decision to make and live with. Everyone else? They can be happy I am not using their mammary glands to nurse and look the other way cause if not, you might see something you don't want to see.
I'm not sure where you've been hearing negative crap from in order for you to have to write this post... but whoever they are, Shame On Them!!ReplyDelete
I bottlefed both my kids for reasons that I don't feel I need to justify to anyone. My kids are well taken care of and well loved; therefore, I could care less about anyone else's opinion. Because in the end... that's all it is... THEIR opinion, versus YOUR facts.
Just know that your choices are made with Spencer's best interests in mind. Who in the world could ever challenge that?!?
I know someone who breastfed her child until he as almost three. He ate regular food and all but still nursed at night. IT is all up to you and your family. What your needs are and what is right for you and Spencer. HE may just decide one day that he is done..he will be your guide and you will know when that time comes. IT is a natural process.ReplyDelete
Love the new look of your blog if I did not mention it yet!
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you know out here in crunchy northern cal extended breastfeeding is no big deal at all. you are more likely to run into someone giving you crap about not doing it long enough! crazy how everyone likes to force their opinions down your throat, isnt it?ReplyDelete
anyway, when i was feeling self conscious about bfing TJ for so long (which ended up not being really that LONG at all... 22 months) i think i read somewhere that the world health organization said the global average for breastfeeding is 3 years. so you go! do what feels right for you and your child!!!