Tuesday, May 14, 2013

11

11 is the number of months we have been calling Raleigh home. And we like it, the vibe and the whole city in general just seem to suit us. And now that we've closed on our forever home, we are ready to lay down our roots. To make this city, ours.

I am now only blogging once a month. I have lost the oomph to keep it up and keep up with all things social media. I remember when Twitter was my vice and now I rarely go and visit and when I do I never find anything that I missed. Though there are people I miss but they too have moved on and I am sure not missing me. I think social media is sort of fickle that way...

I've gone back and forth with possibly saying good bye to this little spot on the internet and maybe starting fresh. After having my first child and finding the "mommy bloggers" I went all gung-ho with it and really feel like I'm more lost than I was before. I was never really looking to make money from this or any blog really and I think I got wrapped up in all the excitement of things that were happening for other bloggers. They were attending a slew of conferences and I thought I should be too. They were getting invited to cool events and I thought, why not me too? The difference? They were working hard for those opportunities and branding themselves and their blogs. They were/are turning their blogs into businesses. I was just following along, thinking I needed to do the same. Only I didn't. And I haven't.

So that is where I am. Do I keep going and just change the name of this blog, along with the url or do I being anew? I've had this blog for 5 years and already changed the name once. I know that I don't want to let it go completely but is starting fresh the way to go? Just when I thought I had the answers...

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  1. Glad you moved to Raleigh and can't wait to see the new home (and vice versa! Where have the months gone?). Blogging is an interesting adventure. I've maintained my name, but my overall vibe has definitely changed a bit over the years as my life has changed. Not sure I have the answers either other than it has to continue to be fun, or I need to move on. I have enough stress in my life without blogging (or any social media) to become that too.

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    1. There was a time when it wasn't fun and that's when I realized that I didn't want to live and die by the blogging numbers. I guess I just need to re-vamp the place. I wish I knew how to do a cool layout, that usually helps.

      Always up for a playdate, just let me know!

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  2. It's hard to say. I know what you mean by tagging along and feeling like you need to keep up with the pack, but I haven't lost the umph to blog yet. So far it's been purely about meeting new people and sharing similar experiences.

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    1. And as long as you can do that and not feel pressure, it's great! When I first started blogging, that is how it was. The friendships seemed more real and there wasn't a lot of competition. But now if you aren't using the right platform or blogging all the time and attending events, it seems like you can either get caught up in trying to be something that you never really set out to be!

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  3. I think it's great that you're settling down and making Raleigh home! It does feel good when you feel like you can put down roots right?

    Sort of like blogging. I've only been doing it for 2+ years, but I've already moved from Blogger to WordPress, changed my domain name, changed my design on WP 3 times, and have met and lost bloggy friends along the way. I think December last year was the time when I felt like I was finally, firmly rooted in all things blogging. I manage to have a routine of sorts with the blog reading/ commenting rounds, social media etc, and balancing that with life and family.

    I hope you find your answers soon!

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    1. Maybe a change in name and layout will help me? I think getting into a routine is very key and maybe that is what will help me get a bit of mojo back. The only schedule I have now is to get the kids to bed on time so I can veg out! ;-)

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  4. I've been a HUGE slacker in blogging lately, and I miss it. It was never about numbers for me. Sure, I had this daydream that some editor would find my blog and whisk me away on a million dollar check to write a humor-filled, yet real, view on motherhood. But that hasn't happened. What has happened is I have had an outlet and a space for all my mommy related things. I have printed out my blog and make copies of it, and while my kids won't have the traditional baby books with first this and first that, they will have something so much better. My own words.

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  5. I understand what you mean. By staying mostly anonymous and having a full time job, I don't have the time/can't market my blog which means they are many aspect in which I can't participate.

    I figure as long as I have something to say, I'll say it!

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  6. You and I have had similar blogging/social media journeys. You were the first person that I started talking to on twitter and you are one of two people that I keep in touch with from that time period.

    I just could not handle the drama that seemed to be ever present in the parent blogging community. It was always something, and while I never got involved personally, I couldn't and didn't want to read blog post after blog post after blog post about it. I didn't want my twitter timeline full of squabbling.

    Anyway, I'm glad you and I are facebook friends now. Even though we have never met, I do feel like I know you personally...it just may be one of those online illusions.

    If you are done with this site, then you are done. I don't think changing layouts and urls will help, because all of the old posts are still here and it won't seem new. I've tried that and it didn't work for me. I have finally started a brand new site. It feels better.

    I took all of the old posts, from Super Daddy, that I wrote about my kids...you know, the extremely personal ones, and I uploaded those into a new blog that is private. I continue to post there about the kids; times together, milestones and all that jazz. I have written the login and password down and have placed it in each of the kid's keepsake boxes where I keep all of their drawings and birthday cards, stuff like that, and when they're old enough or when I'm dead they can log on to that blog and read about our time together. It's only for their eyes.

    Good luck with all of this.

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    1. Yes, there is constant drama and what not. It gets very old and tiresome. It just seems like most post are about the same thing, same item to review, same giveaway. Everyone claims they are different but in the grand scheme? All the same.

      Maybe an illusion but I think we are the same time of people and so we just click. I don't feel like I have to pretend to be someone I am not and I feel you do not either.

      Now doing a private blog, that seems like a GREAT idea!

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