|I just want to play!
I remember seeing a commercial the first time I was pregnant and is showed a handful of moms at a play-date. Their babies were all tiny and sleeping in their car seats as the moms quietly chatted and drank coffee or tea. Right then and there I knew THAT was a perfect play-date. Sadly I never met any moms that had children that were Spencer's age and so those playdates passed me by.
When we put Spencer into school last year it was to get him socialized and also give me a few hours with just one child. I thought maybe at school I would meet mom's who might be interested in milling around Target or having a drink at Starbucks. Instead most everyone kept to themselves. Or better yet setup play-dates but didn't include us. How do I know? Because I would hear them talking about meeting up...
I vowed that when we moved I was going to be proactive and push myself out of my comfort zone and meet other momma's. So I joined a large mom's group and have been putting myself and the kids out there. Raleigh, FTW!
But does the perfect play-date exist? Is it the kids having a great time? What about the mom's? Because I will be honest...I've been on play-dates that were pretty bad. (Not in Raleigh) Ever go and meet a mom and her kid(s) and she barely mutters "how are you?" Yep, the playdate was pretty much us standing next to each other while the kids played. Talk about awkward. Thankfully the playdates I've been to so far have mom's that seem genuinely interested in at least asking how you are.
I'm still on the hunt for the perfect play-date...maybe it's a date for mom's only and the kids are home with Daddy? Yeah...that's sounds pretty perfect, doesn't it?